One Moment Changed Everything

One moment can change everything. That’s all it takes – an instant. Let me share two stories.

The first story occurred two days ago. My wife and I were at the vet. Dylan, my beloved dog lay dying in our arms. Time was short for our sweet, loving friend. Tears streamed down my face and my wife sobbed beside me. And then it happened.

Everything changed. One second, I was looking into the face of unconditional love. Dylan’s eyes were narrowed with concern, yet somehow still lit-up with love and trust. Time seemed to slow down and the next second, she was gone. Her body still lay there, but her spirit had left. One moment, she was one of our children, and the next, she …. wasn’t. I do not have the words to explain the difference, but in that one moment, everything changed.

Man's Best Friend

The second story happened two weeks ago. Don’t worry, it’s a happy story. I was just minutes into a presentation. I was speaking about ‘Why Games Work’ at a major conference. The room was full, every seat taken and late comers were lining up awkwardly along the wall. That day, I was taking some risks – doing some new things that made me nervous and excited. On the 6th slide, I hit the button and made all the screens go completely blank. That’s when it happened.

Everything changed. There was nothing to look at on the screens. So, hundreds of eyes turned to look at me at the same time. No one was texting or reading or settling in. I did something unexpected and you could feel the anticipation in the air. I looked into their eyes, and they mine. It was a brief moment, but it was amazing. It gave me so much energy that I gave the performance of my life. I even won the Award for Best Tutorial. Again, I do not have the words to explain the difference, but in that one moment, everything changed.

Award for Best Tutorial - I/ITSEC 2011

These past two weeks, I’ve been riding an emotional hyper-coaster with no safety restraints. Honestly, I’m a complete wreck. I’ve had the highest highs and the lowest lows. One day I’m being recognized by my peers for years of hard work and the next, I’ve been brought to my knees by grief and sorrow. And in both cases, the defining moment happened in the blink of an eye. One moment changed everything.

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Today is a Sad Day

Bonnie won’t go potty anymore. She’s a cute little white dog, with a perky step and a steady gaze. She stands at the door, eager for it to open, but once outside, she turns around and waits. She’s waiting for her big sister, Dylan so she can shadow her wherever she goes.

Dylan's Little Shadow

Bonnie has no sense of personal space – ‘Thunk! Logs from the sky!’ But Dylan isn’t coming out today.

Happiness And Joy

Have you ever loved a black lab? Then you know their every emotion is tied directly to their tails. Dylan’s tail was constantly in motion and she was always happy. Just glancing her way was enough to earn you that heart-warming thump, thump, thump on the carpet.

Infinitely Patient

She gave unconditional love. And she was infinitely patient, especially with the kids. For 8 years she protected our family and was my faithful companion.

Man's Best Friend

Today is a sad day and we miss her dearly. Be at peace O loving friend.

Labs Leave Paw Prints On Our Hearts

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Most Games Fail

Most games fail. The statistics show that only about 1 in 10 entertainment games are considered a success. That’s a pretty bad rate. And it’s not much different for training games. I think we can do better!

Let me share a story. I was a soccer coach for many years. I loved playing – especially in the rain, when the sun is setting, and it’s almost, but not quite cold. One time, I attended this training session. It was for the coaches and it was really intense – 20 hours of lessons from Fri evening to Sunday morning. The whole time, the teachers kept repeating this one lesson – drilling it into our heads. It was a simple idea, but it became my secret weapon.

What was the secret? Dribbling. That’s right – the most fundamental of all soccer skills. It’s the first skill we teach and it’s also the most important. But, because it’s so basic, so fundamental, most coaches don’t practice it very much – they focus on plays and shots on goal. So, that was my secret weapon. My boys practiced basic dribbling every day, especially in the rain. And it paid off. They became the best dribblers in the league. Imagine the confidence a little boy gains when he steals a ball from someone a foot taller and 20 pounds heavier.

In soccer, the fundamentals are simple – if you control the ball, you control the game. But, what’s the fundamentals of a video game? Is it the graphics or the story?  Maybe it’s about networking or multiplayer. How about the sounds, music, or character customization options? It’s none of these things.

The fundamental aspect of games is flow. Flow is that wonderful state where everything else seems to fade away – where you become completely focused on what you’re doing. Nothing else matters. Time gets distorted – five minutes feels like an hour but an hour flies by in seconds. Flow is why we play games.

Now flow isn’t unique to games. It’s part of the psychology of being human – which means that flow can happen anytime, in lots of situations. Even at the dentist.

I like my hygenist. We talk while she works – it’s one of those off-and-on conversations of course. I try to say something witty. Then she digs around with a long, scrappy metal thing while she talks. Naturally, I reply, ‘Mmm Hmmpphhh?’

But something funny happened. Right in the middle, she stopped talking.  And she didn’t say anything for a long time. She was completely tuned into what she was doing. She moved with efficiency from one task to the next, checking, cleaning, and polishing. She was doing all sorts of things, but she had stopped talking to me. She was in flow! (Maybe I should have flossed more…)

The point is that flow is a basic part of being human. And it’s the essential element of games. And here’s something fun. Flow has been studied scientifically by lots of folks. The guy who discovered it, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, even gave us a recipe for making it happen. Go figure! And just like with stories, I love recipes. So, here’s what you need for flow:

  1. Clear tasks
  2. Immediate feedback
  3. Balance of difficulty vs skill
  4. No distractions.

That’s it – just 4 things. It’s exactly like dribbling in soccer.  It’s easy to understand, but takes a lifetime to master. Unfortunately, game designers rarely talk about it. They don’t research it or present new findings at conferences. Now, I’m not saying they don’t work their butts off – they do! It’s just that they focus too much on the advanced stuff like graphics and technology. And that doesn’t leave much time for the fundamentals. But like soccer, it’s the fundamentals that lead you to victory.

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Where is My Story?

My friend is a storyteller.  He has a respectable face and a rich, deep voice. When he speaks, he weaves these captivating tales that you simply can’t ignore. I’ve known him for a few years, and the other day he asked me for my opinion on his newest web site, Story Care.

Now I’m a newb at telling stories. Which was a problem, because the point of StoryCare is to use stories to improve health care. So, before I could help my friend, I first had to answer a really basic question.

What is a story? It’s one of those things we think we understand but have a hard time defining. So I looked to another story teller, Peter Gruber. Peter is one of the most successful story tellers in the world. He’s been the CEO of both Sony Pictures and Mandalay Entertainment. And he wrote this wonderful book, ‘Tell To Win’. Inside, he draws upon a wealth of stories to teach the rest of us how to tell stories. My favorite was the tale of ‘Mr Muscles and the Mouse’ (aka – Mr python and his lunch).

Even Peter had to ask, ‘What is a Story?’ Which is odd, because he’s a master story teller. While writing the book, he realized he couldn’t answer this basic question.  So he visited a few professor friends, and here’s what he found.  A story has 3 parts:

  1. A question or challenge
  2. The struggle and emotional connection
  3. A galvanizing conclusion (plus a little surprise).

And do you know what that is? That’s a recipe! A story recipe – add each ingredient, one by one, sprinkle in some passion for flavor, and voila! A story is born. And once I knew what a story was, I was ready to review my friends site. So I did.

I’m not going to share my review. You can listen to the stories on StoryCare and judge for yourself. What I want to share is that I had an epiphany during all of this. I realized that that there’s no story on my own website!

Holy cow! There’s not a single story on my About Page! In the beginning, I was just trying to help my friend, but I think he’s the one who’s going to be helping me. So, now I have to go. I have a story to tell! My story.

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Purple Cows

Today, I turned 40! It’s my birthday and now I’m officially old.

Want to know what my favorite gift was? A cereal bowl – the Obol. It’s this silly, curvy bowl that leans at an odd angle. I like that the cereal goes up top, on a little ledge, and the milk stays down below. I didn’t know it before, but I realize now that I do prefer eating non-soggy cereal – crunchy frosted flakes!

The bowl even has a thumb shelf. I never knew I needed a place to rest my thumb, but I like it. Somehow I’ve already become attached to it. My bowl is unique and my wife got it for me because she knew I’d love it. And I do.

Purple Cows!

My Obol inspires me. It’s exactly the kind of product I want to make – a purple cow. A product that is way better than the other cows. Something unique, that I didn’t even know I wanted. An ordinary product that is so different that I’m blogging about it. Awesome!

Today, I turned 40. I still eat cereal like a teenager, so my wife gave me a unique gift. And the best gift of all?  Inspiration.

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